What Did You Expect???

Helpful excerpts and discussion questions from Chapter 3…

For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again. – 1 Corinthians 5:14-15

“Sin turns us in on ourselves.  Sin makes us shrink our lives to the narrow confines of our little self-defined world.  Sin causes us to shrink our focus, motivation, and concern to the size of our own wants, needs and feelings.  Sin causes all of us to be way too self-aware and self-important.  Sin causes us to be offended most by offenses against us and to be concerned most for what concerns us.  Sin causes us to dream selfish dreams and to plan self-oriented plans.  Because of sin, we really do love us, and we have a wonderful plan for our own lives!” – 47

“sin is essentially antisocial.” – 47

“Think of the sturdiness of your allegiance to your own kingdom purposes.” – 51

“God’s grace is intended to explode that.  His grace purposes to expose and free you from your bondage to you.  His grace is meant to bring you to the end of yourself so that you will finally begin to place your identity, your meaning and purpose, and your inner sense of well-being in him. So he places you in a comprehensive relationship with another flawed person, and he places that relationship right in the middle of a very broken world.  To add to this, he designs circumstances for you that you would have never designed for yourself.  All this is meant to bring you to the end of yourself…” – 51

“the trouble you face in your marriage is not an evidence of the failure of grace.  No, those troubles are grace.” – 52

Discussion Questions:

1.  In what ways have you been dreaming selfish dreams and making self-oriented plans?

2.  Discuss evidences of grace in each others lives.

3.  How is your spouse being used by God to produce sanctification in your life?

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